It is what it is. Trust me, you get what you give

Quoting Drake in my headline only seemed appropriate considering what my first “hear me out” piece is about.

Hear me out, I graduated college almost 1.5 years ago and have recently landed my first “salary job”. While it isn’t exactly in my bachelor of arts degree field, it also isn’t too far from it. Although it isn’t my “dream job for life” job, it also isn’t a “job to apply to other jobs” kind of deal either. Throughout the past year, I have freelanced, interned (paid), and worked part time all in my field. Landing a steady, full-time, salary career had proven to be more challenging than myself and my classmates had anticipated. Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of friends who landed that amazing “straight out of college” job and got all of the experience they thought they would. However, I also have friends who don’t fall into that category – and that’s okay!

I’m learning all about patience, which is really hard for me to grasp considering I’m a “perfectionist” and “worry wort”. I used to base my life around the expectations and impressions of the media, family, friends, and even professors. According to the American Psychology Association, “about one-third of U.S. college students had difficulty functioning…due to depression, and almost half said they felt overwhelming anxiety…, according to the 2013 National College Health Assessment, which examined data from 125,000 students from more than 150 colleges and universities.”

My close friend is making more than many adults with a job she got before she even graduated college; shouldn’t I be doing the same? Well, no. We don’t study the same thing, we aren’t interested in the same fields, we don’t learn the same way, our brains aren’t programmed to believe in the same morals/ideals, and our ideas of a dream job and happy life are polar opposites. Does that mean she’s better than me? No. Does that mean I’m better than her? No. It simply means we have different paths to walk through and different lessons to learn and apply to the future. It also doesn’t mean that I have no possible chance of catching up to that “success” either, especially considering success is based on personal opinions, wants, needs, opportunities and choices.

I know people who still don’t have a salary or full-time position in their field and people who have basically done nothing after receiving their degree aside from live off of their parent’s money. I also know people who thought college just wasn’t for them. Does that make them less than me? No. Once again, we all have different paths with different timing and it all works out in the end. If it doesn’t work out, it isn’t the end, right?

Back to my headline that I obviously quoted from Drake’s verse on Big Sean’s “Blessings”. You get what you give, meaning whatever you put out in the universe, you will receive back. It’s not to say if you go shouting, “I want one million dollars in 2016,” that you’re going to get it. If you put out hard work, great ideas, maybe even some lottery numbers, who knows? Maybe you will get one million dollars. However, if you’re not working, not brainstorming, not trying to better yourself, and not thinking of ways to become a millionaire – how would you then get that million dollars?

I know, I know. The thought of actually working for what you want is hard for some people to grasp or even accept. I’m just really tired of seeing so many people complain on social media about what they don’t have, what they think they deserve, and all of the other “whoa is me” comments they can come up with before even thinking of a solution. Yes, my generation is the “lazy” generation because our parents have worked really hard to give us an easier life than they had (how ironic). Our parents did the hustling and grinding, so we can go to college and get educations to DO BETTER. Some of those parents did their best, but that best didn’t “push” their kids enough to provide them with the same opportunities as myself, and I understand that privilege. I am aware of all that my mother, a teen mom, did to provide me with the opportunities that have allowed me to be in this position to write this post. I’m obviously only commenting on people who have had similar privileges as myself, if not close to it.

Millennials are lazy, and that’s mostly a fact. For some, the thought of actually having to go out and work for what they want is tiring. The thought of having to show up and show out in order to make the proper connections to even receive a hand to a handout is frightening. A study showed that 55% of millennials believe that older generations are harder working and more motivated than their peers. If that doesn’t say it all, then I don’t know what does.

We’re a generation obsessed with depressing-meme culture, celebrity “goals”, and fast money. Between the scammers/drug dealers and fake DJs, I don’t know which is the quicker come up. It seems people have forgotten the amount of work our ancestors had to put in just to make minimum wage, meanwhile we have the privilege to complain that we aren’t receiving the opportunities (or amount of) we want IN A FIELD WE ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT.

It’s been more apparent to me among my “DJ friends” that think they deserve more than they actually get, which is truly what inspired this entire post. (Shout out to all the sad boys/girls, I used drake in my headline for you.) Granted, they might deserve more… But, most likely, they don’t. There are DMC champions with decades worth of skill and experience that don’t have the riches and fame of, say, Paris Hilton, but I never see any of them ranting about it on social media. There are smaller DJs that deserve way more credit and money than they get, but what do I see them doing? Working. Out there. Networking. Going to parties they dream of playing at. Visiting other DJs at gigs to truly show support and face. Trying to become better every day in order to get to that successful status they think they deserve.

It’s really not rocket science. I mean, hard work doesn’t always equate success and a lot of money; but, does that then mean we all just stop trying? Do we just cry, complain, and moan about what’s wrong and unfair in our life, or do we actually go out there and try to do something about ourselves first? Whatever the answer is, I just think we need to first look within before we start attacking outwards on social media. Nobody cares that your life is unfair, but they do care when you start doing a little better and getting lil’ chedda.



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